We started planning our April 2020 wedding back in April 2018. We took our time, prayed about it, did our research, saved our money and booked our favourite vendors. We went through every detail with a fine-tooth comb and made several contingency plans. We had it covered and we were excitedly counting down the days till our big day.
A month before our wedding, our venue informed us that they had decided to cancel/postpone all weddings scheduled for April and May in a bid to help limit the spread of Coronavirus in accordance with national social distancing guidelines.
We were devastated, what we had been dreading for the past week or so had actualised.
We felt extremely disappointed with how things had panned out and to be honest, we still feel a little disappointed today. However, we have chosen to trust God. His ways are not our ways so we won’t always understand but we do know that he makes every single thing work for our good – even the things that don’t feel great at the time.
To all the couples who are having to postpone their wedding in this season, we feel you – it is so disheartening! But you’ll get through this and your new wedding date will be even more lit because it will be a post-corona turn-up!
We recommend you try the following:
1. Make sure you are there for one another. It’s a difficult time for you both and nobody is going to understand how you’re feeling apart from your partner so communicate, communicate, communicate.
2. Pray together. Surrender the situation to God, surrender your relationship, wedding, hearts, feelings, just leave it all at his feet. You’ll be surprised at the sense of peace you feel once you’ve done this.
3. Put your planner hat back on. Get in touch with your venue and make a note of dates that they have available. Decide amongst yourselves who your ‘must-have vendors’ are and find a date that works well for as many of them as possible. Once you have done this, ask your other vendors whether they can do the new date. Don’t fret if they aren’t available, start looking for an alternative asap. Be sure to ask vendors to provisionally reserve the date for you whilst you confirm whether your other vendors are available. Also, don’t forget to change your hotel reservations, reschedule your honeymoon and check when your notice of marriage expires – you may need to give notice again.
4. Enjoy. In all honesty, you have worked your socks off and deserve to enjoy so do just that. Chances are you have ticked most things off your to-do list and are just finalising a few bits concerning your new date. So be sure to drink your water, moisturise and put the quarantine snacks down – your wedding attire is waiting for you 😉
Lanré & Olu xx